It's no secret that men and women have different ways of communicating. But that does not mean there is no way to make the 'Mars' and 'Venus' get along when communicating.
"There is hope as long as you're willing to adjust your filter that is part of your brain that processes what he says," said Dr.. B. Janet Hibbs, a psychologist, couples therapist and author of Try To See It My Way, as quoted from Shine.
Look at the following communication problems, which is common in a relationship:
1. In a quarrel
When arguing, perhaps you've heard him say an apology is not sudden and as such is not sincerely from the heart, "I'm sorry you feel that way." What's your dipikiran?
You do not even listen to the apology as a sincere thing to say, but as a justification that the problems and fights that happened was your fault. You may even assume that your partner may be tired of you. In fact, the intent of his words is that the fight to an end and not extended to other problems.
In a fight, women like to confuse the issue, while men have an instinct to resist, especially if he does not understand why you are angry.
2. In a complaint
You often complain about your work on your partner. However, sometimes you often get a dismissive response from him. Is this true?
In fact, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers. So, what he says is probably Develop a solution short of trying he gave you.
For example, you feel the work you do not balance with the price paid. Then, your spouse just to say simple things like, "If you feel it's unfair, ask for a raise."
However, the sound in your ears is, "Your problem is simple, get on with it." You do not feel that your partner is saying is a solution, just as a matter of showing the nature acuhnya. In fact, he has helped you find a solution, although only a simple solution.
3. In a conversation
Women tend to tell things in a convoluted manner. All that relates to say, but essentially very simple. Meanwhile, men do not process information a long with too broad a picture.
Therefore, he often looks bored with a convoluted story. However, you catch the reaction as a marker of a story you do not attract attention. Try to condense a story on important points, you will get attention from him.
4. In a problem-solving
The 'Mars' is born by nature indifferent to trivial things, while the 'Venus' requires a belief that the trivial will not interfere with their relationship. Too much thinking, worrying about the little things make the problem much worse or even create new problems.
"There is hope as long as you're willing to adjust your filter that is part of your brain that processes what he says," said Dr.. B. Janet Hibbs, a psychologist, couples therapist and author of Try To See It My Way, as quoted from Shine.
Look at the following communication problems, which is common in a relationship:
1. In a quarrel
When arguing, perhaps you've heard him say an apology is not sudden and as such is not sincerely from the heart, "I'm sorry you feel that way." What's your dipikiran?
You do not even listen to the apology as a sincere thing to say, but as a justification that the problems and fights that happened was your fault. You may even assume that your partner may be tired of you. In fact, the intent of his words is that the fight to an end and not extended to other problems.
In a fight, women like to confuse the issue, while men have an instinct to resist, especially if he does not understand why you are angry.
2. In a complaint
You often complain about your work on your partner. However, sometimes you often get a dismissive response from him. Is this true?
In fact, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers. So, what he says is probably Develop a solution short of trying he gave you.
For example, you feel the work you do not balance with the price paid. Then, your spouse just to say simple things like, "If you feel it's unfair, ask for a raise."
However, the sound in your ears is, "Your problem is simple, get on with it." You do not feel that your partner is saying is a solution, just as a matter of showing the nature acuhnya. In fact, he has helped you find a solution, although only a simple solution.
3. In a conversation
Women tend to tell things in a convoluted manner. All that relates to say, but essentially very simple. Meanwhile, men do not process information a long with too broad a picture.
Therefore, he often looks bored with a convoluted story. However, you catch the reaction as a marker of a story you do not attract attention. Try to condense a story on important points, you will get attention from him.
4. In a problem-solving
The 'Mars' is born by nature indifferent to trivial things, while the 'Venus' requires a belief that the trivial will not interfere with their relationship. Too much thinking, worrying about the little things make the problem much worse or even create new problems.
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