you know the past couple

Although he's affair with a former boyfriend has ended, it would not hurt if you find out the 'story'. This could be your reference in a relationship with him.

Surely not to stir up old wounds, but more on that you and he does not repeat the same mistakes. To that end, know the track record of amorous men that was launched from the following Yourtango.

1. Devotees monogamy
Men of this type are eager to be loved sincerely. No fear of commitment. But be careful, if he's too hasty take seriously, it could be because only the fear of being alone. Not because he is sure to make you become his friend.

2. Ever cheated on
Although he had an affair, not necessarily he will do it again on you. Precisely when he told of the affair he had done, he could be very sorry.

Find out just the main reason why he was having an affair. Discussion of this can actually make you more familiar with his personality.

3. Victims of infidelity
Men who had been a victim of infidelity tends to be hard to believe with their partner. He also will be a little trauma in relationships. It took a rather long process, so that he can trust you.

4. Playboy
Man playboy is very tempting and hard to resist. If you already know how he simply changing partners, and still want to be her lover, a 'must' accept the risk. Even if the end bitter, at least you had fun with it.

18.19 | 0 komentar | Read More

When Frustration Find partner

The experience of a broken heart can make a person more carefully choose life companion. I was so afraid to repeat the bitter experience, some people grow up to be a 'voter'. Prefer to spend time alone than couples who did not complete in his eyes.

If you fall like that, maybe it's good to dream. Dreams are part of what we expect to happen in life. Dreams are very important to motivate yourself in all aspects of life, including romance.

You may often confide in your blog or diary while quoting the beautiful words or quote celebrities, representing scenes in your life. Then, making a beautiful collage. Sometimes the way it works well to motivate you.

However, your intent is to develop a clear purpose in your life. Intention is to support you expend energy to achieve your dreams. Therefore, you should fully understand what the purpose of your life.

There are several steps that you can set a clear goal of what you want in life has to offer Zavaro Lynn, author of the book The Game of You, as reported from Shine.

1. Allow yourself to dream about what you really want. Then, visualize in your mind's eye. Focus on yourself with your eyes closed 5 to 10 minutes, then felt a deep peace of the shadow relationship of your dreams.

2. Write down what you want today. As if it happened, or is already happening. This is the strongest way to determine what movement will you take to realize your wishes.

3. In the first line of a piece of paper write the word 'I', then complete the writing type of person you want with you at this time in detail. Be active and clear with your description.

Example: I enjoyed a love affair with a man who is kind, gentle, and loving. Or, I love spending time with a guy who likes to have fun, and also likes to cook
together at home.

4. Continue the sentence until you feel everything you want in a relationship you have written. Do your best on the core issues. Let it flow but not too
choose. Remember that you want to find a true partner, not a conceptual idea that may not exist.

5. Affirm the positive. Make sure every sentence you uttered a positive tone. Hold yourself to use negative descriptions like the word 'no'. As we explain in the negative, unconsciously we have allowed negative thoughts permeate the soul, and this will berdampk at the time you make a decision.

Example: "I do not want to fight with people I love." You can replace it with the phrase, "I communicate with my loved ones with maturity, openness, and pleasure."

6. Know what you can not tolerate. Use past experience to explain what you do not want to face in subsequent relationships.

For example, if you do not want to have a relationship with a man away from you or the guy who already have children, enter the scene to something that you can not tolerate. Always
using a positive point of view as someone who was in the same area, or someone who is still single.

7. Realize your worth. Know what the value of life's most important to you? Make sure they are included in your list, and set it as a value must also be trusted man
your dream. A successful relationship must be in agreement or at least respect the value of each.

8. Check your list. Recheck your writing to see if you forget something important to you. Make sure the paper is a picture of a bigger dream than the trapped
in details that are too obvious.

For example, if you make posts like, "He must be income more than Rp 1 billion per year," should use the phrase, "He can make my life and family in good circumstances."

9. Read your writing every day with a loud voice for a week to incorporate them into your subconscious. Place the text in an easily visible place so you
easy to remember what is in it.

10. Always open to welcome your new relationship to get surprises and not exactly the same as what you write. However, if you meet someone not in accordance with
values ​​that you want, do not dare to compromise.

18.17 | 0 komentar | Read More

Main Causes bored cheating

After being married for a long time, the relationship began to sour marriage partner is often unconscious. Not infrequently, many who then seek refuge with the affair.

The survey by the Pew Research Center found that 40 percent of respondents in the United States declared the marriage is an institution that is outdated and the source of boredom. Recent studies of couples aged 18-29 found that couples are now more concerned with being a good parent, than to have a good marriage.

The study said, a marriage that was crumbling marked with ordinary feelings between the couple, decreased arousal and low conflict, but with a low sense of satisfaction too.

"The marriage was bland, the stability of the existing felt wrong and uncomfortable. You will feel there is a serious thing in a marriage even though no major conflicts," said Pamela Haag, author of 'Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives , as quoted from Shine.

Boredom is the main enemy in every marriage. A survey of 3341 people conducted Christian Mark of The Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, Gender and Reproduction found that 25 percent of couples who married monogamous admitted on the verge of boredom.

"Boredom is basically like a germ that attacks the immune system of relationships," says Ian Kerner, founder of Good in Bed and author of 'Love in the time of Colic: A New Parents' Guide to Getting It On Again'.

"It's not a coincidence, one of five people who are faithful to the spouse suffering intense boredom," says Kerner.

From the survey found, most women who are in a bland marriage admitted to feeling lonely. While the men confessed 'trapped'. "Sometimes, the wedding was boring because we set standards that are too high, that marriage will give it a lot in marriage."

Thus, Haag said, many couples are stuck with hope and romance after marriage. When experiencing boredom in marriage, they prefer having an affair because it is more challenging.

To avoid divorce, Haag emphasizes that married couples do not get stuck in stereotypes of traditional marriage. The couple should diligently explore a marriage is most suitable in the relationship between melancholy and divorce.

"Begin to live life a different marriage. Get out of the box that had been considered properly. It could be changing the way child care or your relationship."

If you have tried and failed, maybe it's time you be patient. Because, it could be your spouse and children become more happy.

18.15 | 0 komentar | Read More

In order Mesra Without False Perceptions

It's no secret that men and women have different ways of communicating. But that does not mean there is no way to make the 'Mars' and 'Venus' get along when communicating.

"There is hope as long as you're willing to adjust your filter that is part of your brain that processes what he says," said Dr.. B. Janet Hibbs, a psychologist, couples therapist and author of Try To See It My Way, as quoted from Shine.

Look at the following communication problems, which is common in a relationship:

1. In a quarrel
When arguing, perhaps you've heard him say an apology is not sudden and as such is not sincerely from the heart, "I'm sorry you feel that way." What's your dipikiran?

You do not even listen to the apology as a sincere thing to say, but as a justification that the problems and fights that happened was your fault. You may even assume that your partner may be tired of you. In fact, the intent of his words is that the fight to an end and not extended to other problems.

In a fight, women like to confuse the issue, while men have an instinct to resist, especially if he does not understand why you are angry.

2. In a complaint
You often complain about your work on your partner. However, sometimes you often get a dismissive response from him. Is this true?

In fact, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers. So, what he says is probably Develop a solution short of trying he gave you.

For example, you feel the work you do not balance with the price paid. Then, your spouse just to say simple things like, "If you feel it's unfair, ask for a raise."

However, the sound in your ears is, "Your problem is simple, get on with it." You do not feel that your partner is saying is a solution, just as a matter of showing the nature acuhnya. In fact, he has helped you find a solution, although only a simple solution.

3. In a conversation
Women tend to tell things in a convoluted manner. All that relates to say, but essentially very simple. Meanwhile, men do not process information a long with too broad a picture.

Therefore, he often looks bored with a convoluted story. However, you catch the reaction as a marker of a story you do not attract attention. Try to condense a story on important points, you will get attention from him.

4. In a problem-solving
The 'Mars' is born by nature indifferent to trivial things, while the 'Venus' requires a belief that the trivial will not interfere with their relationship. Too much thinking, worrying about the little things make the problem much worse or even create new problems.

18.14 | 0 komentar | Read More

Type Idaman Men Women

A man who can understand the desire is the type of companion coveted many women. A study found that men who are sensitive to ensure mental health and provide a better sex life for women.

According to one study, men who are good at communicating, can listen well and understand women better able to give sexual pleasure to her partner.

The first study conducted in the United States found a strong relationship between mental well-being and sexual pleasure. It looks at three quality of life is measured by how happy the individual that is self-esteem, autonomy, and empathy.

It is obtained from the comparison of three measures of sexual satisfaction that is the regularity of orgasm, as well as giving and receiving oral sex.

The team of researchers from the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health found that sexual pleasure in women occurs consistently associated with the empathy of the couple.

They found that when men are responsive and caring, it creates a feedback loop that enhances sexual pleasure in women.

"The development of this research is important for young women to enhance their sexual arousal, since many women have difficulty enjoying sex," said Adena Galinsky, lead investigator, was quoted by the Daily Mail.

His team found that men are more easy to enjoy sex, recorded 9
of 10 men have an orgasm every sex.
Meanwhile, only 47 percent of women who can experience orgasm.

The study also found that men enjoy giving oral sex more than women. "The fact is the majority of men want to do an activity that can give pleasure to their partner," he added.

To obtain this result, the research team has examined the 3237 respondents aged 18 to 26 years.

18.13 | 0 komentar | Read More

paints a picture of one's personality

Profile in the face like a Facebook account and social resumes in cyberspace. All the features in it, photos, friends and groups that follow paint a picture of his personality.

If you want to probe further a man, it's good to see the page Facebook account. You can see if he's a really romantic or a man who must be ignored.

Check out some of the steps as quoted from the following Yourtango.

Profile photo
Figure able to speak. A man who posed with a guitar, a car or a ball showed he loved his hobby, or want to understand her personality. pose with pets show he might one who cares. To be sure, click on his photo album and make sure it is in it.

Info 'about me'
If the content is very long, you certainly have to re-think why he had to write all about him. He may be an arrogant or think privacy is not important. Do not be surprised when he told a relationship is too seconds on his Facebook page.

Current status
Men are always posting things that he naturally can mean having too much free time or trying to improve self-esteem. The man who rarely post status may fear for submitting or comments from his friends.

Content status
If Farmville and Mafia Wars decorate or 50 percent or more of his status, he may be one that does not work in the real world or the middle of refuge in cyberspace. Men of this type may have problems to deal with social situations such as the face of dating and family gatherings.

Relationship status
Despite saying he was single, but the relationship status on Facebook. Mean, this guy just wanted to tease. And, if the profile says he's married, immediately remove from the list of friends before he tries to seduce you.

Habit 'pinch'
People who poke fun at the Facebook page is the worst type. He lets you know he was interested, without the need to do anything. In addition, he is tempting to draw the attention of women. Odds are, he 'nudged' a few women at once.

His friends
If the parents are included in the list of his friend, he was a close family. However, men who have more than 1,000 friends characterize it is difficult to say 'no'.

Fans
A man who 'likes' to everything like people, products, brands, events, groups, cartoon characters, and even the name seems a bit desperate. Or, maybe he wanted to create a self-image.

Demand so her fans
Men who are not celebrities or professional athletes, but asked people to become 'fans' are characteristic of an arrogant or insecure with himself. So, he must have a reminder that always have a 'friend'. Reject the request and should look for men who have a normal desire.

18.12 | 0 komentar | Read More